Yes, it comes around quick, it is that time of the year again when it seems that everyone knows someone who is getting married in the upcoming month. I was recently involved in a wedding as a bridesmaid – which of course is a great honour and I accepted eagerly when the bride to be asked me to be one of her 4 bridesmaids! However, what I didn’t realise when I accepted it, how much work was going to be involved and how many traditions and etiquette rules and customs had to be followed. From the wording on the invitations to the seating plans things are never as straight forward as you might imagine! As a bridesmaid I thought all I would have to do is put on a pretty dress and a smile and follow the bride down the aisle! Little did I know what I was getting myself into….
Traditionally the role of a bridesmaid includes:
Assisting the bride in recording accepted and declined invitations.
Organising the Hen Night.
Helping the bride with her choice of wedding dress.
Meeting the bride at the entrance to the wedding venue.
Confirming final checks with florist, photographer, reception etc.
Witnessing the signing of the register.
Re-arranging the bridal dress, veil and train at the wedding venue when necessary.
Being on hand to assist with the requirements of the bride as and when they arise.
Making sure the bride is ready on the day.
Accompanying the bride to the hairdresser on the wedding day.
Ensuring the brides transport is on schedule.
Checking that the bride has packed everything for the honeymoon.
Carrying the brides bouquet to the alter.
Lifting the brides veil at the alter.
Assisting the best man introduce people to each other at the reception.
Keeping the remainder of the wedding cake until the couple return from their honeymoon.
Returning any hired clothing.
Luckily for me and my fellow bridesmaid we weren’t required to do all the above, however we could be seen sporting a very attractive ‘emergency kit’ bag with us all day which included things such as the bride's make up, safety pins, stain remover, deodorant, perfume, energy tables, pain killers, sewing kits and pretty much everything you can possibly imagine needing, along with a few extras!
I, of course, wish the new couple every happiness and am so glad that I was able to participate in their special day. I’ll make sure I look back on their wedding day when I finally get to plan my revenge—er, wedding!
Laura Roberts